“Maybe the only way to find yourself is to stop looking for someone else”

I was telling a friend and trusted advisor of how I felt lonely/bored and chased someone to escape the loneliness (see Loneliness, Panic and Being Cool) when this exchange occurred:

Me: I think the more time I spend doing ‘Diana stuff’, the less I’ll chase. I’ve spent the last three years with meeting someone as my priority but it will certainly be much more free without that!

Friend: Yes! Ad of couse, the only way to find someone is to stop looking.

Me: Maybe the only way to find yourself is to stop looking for someone else.

Friend: Ohh pretty deep for 10:30am!