"If it's meant to be"

“If it’s meant to be...” is by far, my least favorite saying. I am not a fatalist, I do not believe that anything in life is predetermined for us. I think life is what you make of it; how you deal with the things that happen that are out of your control. I’m disappointed that The Runner hasn’t come after me. He has expressed his sadness and let me know how much he cared. But he hasn’t made a move to fix it. I started to take this as rejection - if you know the problem and you want to fix it, then just fix it. But I’m realizing it isn't that simple. That implies he can make an yes/no, on/off button type choice. But his fears and his feelings are based deeper inside than a simple shift in perspective can change. So how do things come to life? If it’s not fate, how does ‘meant to be’ actually BE? Humans have a natural tendency to work toward what they want. It is literally part of our human nature. Hungry? Go toward food. Tired? Go to sleep. Things appear to happen as “if it is meant to be, it will be” because if you want it, you take an action to make it happen. And he’s not working to make it happen. I don’t think that means he doesn’t wish it would work but I think that right now it can’t be worked on until other things are worked on first. So the saying “what is meant to be...” interpreted this way tells me that this isn’t right, at least not right now. And every time I want to shake him and tell him to just fix it already, I need to remember, this isn’t right, at least not right now.