It has been a fairly mundane start to the week so I thought it would be a good time to catch up on loose ends.
Over
the weekend I celebrated my birthday with friends and family, and after
a year of feeling disconnected, it was a fantastic way to kick off my
new year (as well as getting over the first year post-divorce hump). I
can not thank my friends and family enough for making this birthday
extra special and ringing in the ‘new year’ in such a wonderful way!
In
other news, I’ve stopped communicating with the Dad aka the Ditcher.
The email exchange we were having was growing dull and mundane with a
running list of daily happening updates. Whereas my initial attraction
to him was his wit and intellect. Take that away and you have...well,
email updates you’d send to your grandma. So I stopped replying, as his
last email didn’t even include an open ended question. I figured if he
wanted to continue hanging out, he’d get in touch, but of very little
surprise, he did not.
On
the other hand, a good friend told me about this okcupid site which is
much like match.com except free (my online dating philosophy for single
moms is that it is a must-do because you don’t have time to ‘put
yourself out there’ very often so may as well do it from the comfort of
your home)! One of my 4 ‘dull dates’ came from this site. However, last
week I started emailing with a band member of a popular band in the
90’s that could be considered a one hit wonder. While I find his emails
to be fairly self centered (again, lacking open ended questions),
Little Buddha informed me that this is because guys don’t know what they
are doing and it’s in their nature to just write about themselves.
Taking this into consideration, I decided to take a risk and see if he
wanted to hang out in person. He said yes but asked what I’d like to
do....and that is what I need to think about today, as I can’t do
anything as predictable as some of my normal spots but I also don’t want
to go too hipster. I need ‘hip without effort’ - any suggestions?
That
wraps up the catch up. I’m sorely missing my friends who lost their
jobs last week and I think about them every day. I am also so thankful
for all of the love and support over the weekend from friends &
family. So all in all - it’s a bitter sweet week, but isn’t that how it
always is?
This blog is my journey to Becoming Wonder Woman through the trials of divorce, lessons of a being new mom, challenges of a demanding career, and experiments as a single mom.
Showing posts with label first dates. Show all posts
Showing posts with label first dates. Show all posts
Tuesday, May 1, 2012
Friday, March 2, 2012
Countdown to midnight
Date with the guy from the bar last weekend (known as Aquaman) is tonight!
From Little Buddha - the supportive, endless wise, pint-sized Buddha
I think you are going to have fun tonight. Doesn’t sound like you have to do too much work either. I’m glad you are looking forward to it. When/if he says something that scares you, try to make a mental note to smile. The act of smiling when fear is present is kind of like holding the cross up to the devil. You don’t have to feel the smile, just physically do the act of lifting the corners of your mouth.
No expectations right? And I don’t mean regarding him. No expectations on yourself. Be yourself, not who you think everyone else wants you to be. You really are an incredible person Diana. You’ve been a true friend, you’ve taught me things I never would have seen just by being willing to look at yourself. You are incredibly brave…a true Warrior. You didn’t crumble and complain through all this, you fought every single day! Even when you swore you were giving up, it was clear you were fighting harder. You fought for yourself and in turn you fought for everyone around you, especially your daughter. An angel can only make an angel. : )
You fear, as we all do, but not too many people out there are willing to put it out there to their friends. You trusted your friends and in turn gave us all something so valuable and priceless in return. You give unconditionally and you always give someone the benefit of the doubt where most people judge and dismiss. You have a heart so big, you can’t even see it. : ) These are not words to make you feel better. I suck at lying. What I am saying is we’re all lucky to have you as a friend, mother, daughter, coworker, manager and so on.
So, trust you “intuitive warrior-ness”. Trust the same intuitiveness you trust when you meet a friend. Trust yourself to be yourself, be confident that you are a good person and if someone doesn’t see that, they are not good for you. Most are good people, but that doesn’t always make them good for “you”. You are good for you. It’s as simple as that.
Have fun, play a little tonight, smile each time you feel fear creeping in - this is a great test because you are not invested. : ) You deserve some unconditional, I don’t give a sh*t, play in the mud, fun!
To Little Buddha’s unconditional fun point, Bestie Liz has informed me I am not to worry, fret, or feel fearful tonight - tonight is for fun. After midnight, she has assured me we will reassess and hash out all of my fears, rational or not. But tonight is for fun!
From Little Buddha - the supportive, endless wise, pint-sized Buddha
I think you are going to have fun tonight. Doesn’t sound like you have to do too much work either. I’m glad you are looking forward to it. When/if he says something that scares you, try to make a mental note to smile. The act of smiling when fear is present is kind of like holding the cross up to the devil. You don’t have to feel the smile, just physically do the act of lifting the corners of your mouth.
No expectations right? And I don’t mean regarding him. No expectations on yourself. Be yourself, not who you think everyone else wants you to be. You really are an incredible person Diana. You’ve been a true friend, you’ve taught me things I never would have seen just by being willing to look at yourself. You are incredibly brave…a true Warrior. You didn’t crumble and complain through all this, you fought every single day! Even when you swore you were giving up, it was clear you were fighting harder. You fought for yourself and in turn you fought for everyone around you, especially your daughter. An angel can only make an angel. : )
You fear, as we all do, but not too many people out there are willing to put it out there to their friends. You trusted your friends and in turn gave us all something so valuable and priceless in return. You give unconditionally and you always give someone the benefit of the doubt where most people judge and dismiss. You have a heart so big, you can’t even see it. : ) These are not words to make you feel better. I suck at lying. What I am saying is we’re all lucky to have you as a friend, mother, daughter, coworker, manager and so on.
So, trust you “intuitive warrior-ness”. Trust the same intuitiveness you trust when you meet a friend. Trust yourself to be yourself, be confident that you are a good person and if someone doesn’t see that, they are not good for you. Most are good people, but that doesn’t always make them good for “you”. You are good for you. It’s as simple as that.
Have fun, play a little tonight, smile each time you feel fear creeping in - this is a great test because you are not invested. : ) You deserve some unconditional, I don’t give a sh*t, play in the mud, fun!
To Little Buddha’s unconditional fun point, Bestie Liz has informed me I am not to worry, fret, or feel fearful tonight - tonight is for fun. After midnight, she has assured me we will reassess and hash out all of my fears, rational or not. But tonight is for fun!
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)