Sticking with the checklist

Here’s what happens when I meet a guy: I WANT him to have potential. So even if there are several areas that he falls short of my ideal, I tell myself that’s ok because he’s “just being a guy”.

Example A: The pace setter in the previous post did 3 things: worked, went to the gym, went out with friends.

Example B: When I asked the pace setter’s friends what things they did, they looked at me with a blank stare and said: work, go to the gym, go out. 

I made this ok in my head because “he’s just being a guy”.

Here’s are the qualities that I really want:

-  -        Smart

-   -      Funny

-   -     Kind

-    -    Caring

-   -     Generous

-    -    Has interests, preferably including something cultural

-     -   Reads

-      -  Is continually seeking to learn more/grow

-       - Can hold a conversation that dips below surface level topics

So why do I so easily abandon this list and convince myself that someone who has 1 or maybe 2 of these qualities may be “potential”?  Seems like it is time for a change – time to start evaluating a guy using logic and not just heart.