While
the Month of Me was effective in lowering my anxiety with no worries of
whom I should be meeting and where I should be going, it also had an
unintended side effect that my confidence has dropped. Although I have
turned down various guys during 2013, that also means I haven’t been out
on many dates. As a result, I don’t feel attractive or desirable in
any way. In fact, when I’m out, I fear that all guys see is a 34
year-old going on 84 who is slightly broken and worse for the wear. I
thought that taking time to yourself was supposed to boost self-esteem,
not make you feel worse! This is in part due to the lack
interaction\interest from guys and part due to a feeling of isolation
which is magnified when you aren’t dating.
In
the last week I was asked out by 2 guys who are both nice enough, but I
want to turn them both down because neither really peaks my interest
and gets me excited to go out. There are 2 paths:
1)
If I complain that I feel isolated, then I should get out there and
give any guy a chance who seems like he is on the up and up.
2)
If I want to keep my energy for myself, I need to accept that means a
bit of feeling isolated, and wait until I meet someone who really peaks
my interest before saying yes.
What do you think? I’ve been flip flopping on which way to go! What would you do?
No comments:
Post a Comment