Friday, August 22, 2014

First Date Criteria

As I’m starting to more carefully evaluate who I will agree to meet for a first drink, I thought it would be good to have some tangible criteria to add some logic to the process.  This will help avoid know it alls, guys looking for hook ups, guys who only talk about themselves, guys who aren’t cool with kids, and guys who will have nothing to say, making an one hour first drink stretch into an eternity of purgatory.

To avoid the aforementioned guys and other unsavory types, here is my criteria - please add to it!

1. Must ask for a date within:
- If we meet in person and he asks for my number, a date must be requested within the first 24 hours of texting.
- If we meet online, a date must be requested within first 4 days of contact. (Any longer and it turns into a pen pal. The ones who have waited longer to ask for a date have typically turned out to have commitment issues, not exactly a shocking correlation)

2. Must be divorced, not just separated

3. Must have acknowledged the existence of my daughter in a positive manner (not just ‘oh you have a kid’)

4. Must have asked get-to-know-you questions about me. If someone spends the whole time talking about themselves when corresponding...guess what happens on that date!

5. Must be willing to meet at a venue near me


  1. I am your 'kindred spirit' that commented back on February 24, 2014. Again, your blogs continue to help, guide & inspire me in my growth & journey. I love this list and it came at just the right time for me and things that I am dealing with. I would like to add, even though I haven't always done it and it can be a struggle.
    6. Listen to ME, cause most times our inner self is telling us to run, we know better, they are not for us, etc. and we fail to listen for whatever reason(s) and/or insecurities but at the end of the day, who better to confirm what is best for us!!!

  2. Thank you for your kind words :) Great addition - you are totally right, you always know and when you listen to your true self, it never leads you the wrong way. It's sometimes just hard to be quiet enough to hear it!